New Podcast: Love, Church & Money

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Love is in the air, everywhere I look around (in my John Paul Young voice). Check out the fifth installment of my podcast with Charles Devon. With Valentine’s Day around the corner, we chat about relationships, dating in the church, and whether income matters.

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The Power of Relationships

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Relationship! Relationship! Relationship! I repeat this over and over because I believe that repetition is the best teacher. We learned our abc’s by singing the ABC song over and over. We learned to write by tracing the letters over and over. My RELATIONSHIP with God is the model of what my relationship should be with people. God can do no wrong. I love Him if He allows everything in my life to go right or if He allows turbulence to seep in. He loves me unconditionally. We hit dry patches in our relationship where I do not feel like reading or listening to His word. However, He will always set a spark to rekindle the flame of our bond. The same is true for people.

We need people. God gave Adam, Eve because he could not start the order of the world alone. In marriages, every day is not bliss. But there will be reminders of why you love that person and what drew you together in the first place. During the dating stage, you must straighten out the kinks of what you can and cannot handle from your mate before entering forever together.

I keep hearing messages that compare our purpose to pregnancy and I believe that is because I and so many of you are currently in the third trimester of destiny. We are about to give birth to what God created us for when He placed us in our mother’s wombs. The hunger and thirst for something greater that you are currently experiencing are birth pains. Your water is about to break, giving life to the supernatural here on earth. I know this is so true for myself because He is giving me new desires. I am not following my past routine. He’s given me a mindset bigger than I’ve ever experienced before and I realize it’s because I’m on the verge of something bigger.

We are all pregnant with greatness but one cannot become pregnant alone. It takes two to even plant the seed and create the embryo. Usually when one gives birth there is a host of family and friends that gather at the hospital to support this new child entering into the world. We need cheerleaders, hand-holders, workers to make the process simpler and more effective. We make greater impact when we have more of God’s called and anointed individuals joining forces for a common cause-the Kingdom!

Just because I have an addition of people in my life does not mean my values shift. My values remain and are even enhanced when I have the right people in my corner holding me accountable. If I change who I am based on who I am around, I did not have true values to begin with. I should hold the same standards everywhere I go. No matter what offer is on the table, I will stand for what is right, noble, just, and trustworthy. I will not accept offers that challenge my relationship with God.

God is bringing unique individuals into my life; people that I may not think I would normally hang with because I have something to offer them and they to me. That person makes me a disciple. That person holds the key to unlock my blessing. Do not judge the people that come into your life that seem “crazy.” They have purpose- you for them, they for you, and together for the Kingdom. I have been a loner for most of my life, not allowing people in because I felt they would hold me back. And maybe for the first 28 years of my life that was true. I may have needed that time to develop my one-on-one relationship with God. But now I realize that I must allow others to enter in because we are more powerful in numbers than I am as one.

Celibacy & Condoms: The Truth About Sex

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Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body. Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies.                     -1 Corinthians 6:18-20

Although we have come to accept premarital sex like the mailman not stopping by on Sunday, the bible makes it very clear where God stands on the subject. There are certain sins that have plagued this world since the beginning of time, sexual immorality being a top contender. With any physical sin that we commit, one can ponder what strong desire is the act fulfilling? When we overeat, there is a greed that needs to be relinquished; an abnormal hunger that can only be satisfied by pleasing our taste buds. An alcoholic may be masking a pain so deep that escaping their natural state of mind seems to be the only solution. When we engage in premarital sex there is a physical urge that yearns a touch, a sensation that soothes a spirit of lust. And with any sin, once that itch has been scratched once, we crave it again and again and again.

Everyone views sex differently. Some desire affection and therefore experience an emotional connection with their partner. Others want a quick fix, a climax to a low start. Casual sex today is the norm; it appears on the most random shows and movies. Creators don’t think it’s possible for entertainment to sell without sex. We heavily promote something that births so many scars. We view sex as common as fixing lunch. But just like hitting the bottle and getting behind the wheel, we don’t realize the effects of our acts until we collide with the driver in front of us.

The permanent consequences of sex far outweigh the temporary pleasures. We think that we are invincible, especially in our youth. We don’t consider that many people who contract HIV and herpes are just like us. The young girl who became pregnant at 16 only had sex with one partner twice and now she finds herself in a predicament that her young mind cannot wrap itself around. And the heartache of being played by someone you gave your body to can cut just as deep as an STD. It is so hard to teach the severity of these consequences because people don’t think it’s possible until it happens to them. And even when it does, it’s so easy to fall back into a trap once it’s grabbed us by the tail.

We neglect the strength to resist an internal desire for an internal wholeness. We rely on physical crutches rather than spiritual elevation. But it is possible to challenge any mental attack by training our mind. Just as we teach our toddlers to resist the urge to touch objects that may harm them, we must do the same. We are much like babies in that we want to taste everything once and upon tasting it cannot get enough. But I believe there is a generation of individuals who are stronger than the world. We have trained our minds to align with the Spirit of God. I promise that once you do so, you will no longer find yourself in situations that can cause you to stumble and if you do, the victory of resisting temptation will be so much more rewarding than the guilt and condemnation of returning to past behavior.

We no longer rely on the famous quote, “God knows my heart.” We live by the statement, “God knows my actions and they align with my heart.” Taste and see that the Lord is good and His love is so much sweeter than anything you have tasted.

-Renée Nicole Gibson Twitter: disclosednative IG: ms_disclosednative