When you stop letting your mind wander and believe that God is working in everything, you gain a better understanding of life. Then you can live in peace rather than bitterness and resentment. We often blame our current behaviors on our past. We allow the behavior of others to trick our mind into thinking that we have to be the same way. The concept of daddy issues and mommy complexes is a trap of the flesh.
My past isn’t squeaky clean. But when you are transformed through a true intimate relationship with God you notice things that you may not have before. I received a text from an old guy friend that in my transformed mind, I felt inappropriate. I realized I had made it acceptable for him to make such a statement with my former behavior. The old me would have fed into his comment. The new me didn’t stand for it.
I used to think that I had commitment issues because I struggled with giving myself completely in a relationship. My flesh started to think that negative experiences with men who I am closest to hindered me in trusting the men I dated. Then I realized that was a lame excuse. Yesterday’s encounters do not have to become today’s complexes. Just because your mother did it and your mother’s mother and your third cousin removed did it does not mean that you have to do the same. Don’t submit to the idea of curses. Break them!
I now understand that I could not commit to those men because I noticed characteristics in them that I was not willing to submit to. They were not created for me and I not for them. God protected me by allowing me to learn from my past rather than use it as a crutch.
Whatever has occurred in your past has passed. Put it to death. Stop thinking about it. Stop allowing it to cause you to live in anger and fear. Just because one person hurt you does not mean the world has the same intentions. Guard your heart but do not become cold-hearted. Do not stop loving people because of an inability to be loved. Learn from the mistakes of others. Pray for discernment so that you can spot out the real from the fake and be appreciative of those life lessons God taught you from your past. Be grateful that He entrusted you with trials. That means you were built for it. He wouldn’t put more on you than you can bear. God knows that you’re a tough cookie. Now use your strength to empower others and be greater than your experiences.
-Renée Nicole Gibson Twitter: disclosednative IG: ms_disclosednative