Alicia Keys ‘A Revelation’

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One would imagine that an artist as bold and daring to be different as Alicia Keys would have all the confidence in the world. However, in her latest blog post she reveals quite the contrary. A.Keys unleashes the truth behind her former self from dressing like a tomboy to avoid unwanted attention from men, to allegations of homosexuality to hiding her intelligence so that her peers would accept her. It is refreshing to learn that others experience the same insecurities that we do, while offering sound guidance on escaping the hold of our fears.

I can relate to Alicia’s desire to run from herself. I, too battled with being different, not fitting in. I felt like my thought pattern was unusual; like my ideas didn’t add up to others while making perfect sense in my head and heart. I now understand that my creativity is my own. I embrace my uniqueness because it is what makes Renée, Renée. We all have something special to offer the world and with the beautiful music that Alicia has shared, she is doing the perfect job of being her.

For as long as I can remember, I’ve hidden myself. It might have started in school when I realized that I caught on to things a little quicker, and teachers started to show slight favor to me, or use me as an example. I remember feeling like my friends would make fun of me or look at me as if I was different from them and so… I started hiding. Not intentionally, I didn’t mean to, but I did. Little pieces at a time.

‎I definitely started hiding when I got old enough to walk down my NY streets alone. I started to notice a drastic difference in how men would relate to me if I had on jeans, or if I had on a skirt, or if my hair was done pretty. I could tell the difference, I could feel the animal instinct in them and it scared me. I didn’t want to be talked to in that way, looked at in that way, whistled after, followed. And so I started hiding. I chose the baggy jeans and timbs, I chose the ponytail and hat, I chose no makeup, no bright color lipstick or pretty dresses. I chose to hide. Pieces at a time. Less trouble that way.

I remember feeling that same way when I first started to get recognized as an artist. I had the baggy/braided/tough NY tomboy thing mastered, that was who I was (or who I chose to be) and I felt good there. Then, because of the way I spoke or carried myself, people started calling me gay and hard and I wasn’t gay, but I was hard and although I felt comfortable there, it made me uncomfortable that people were judging me and so slowly I hid that side of myself. I put on dresses and didn’t braid my whole head up, so people could see more of the “real” me, even though at that point I’m sure I was more confused then ever of what the real me was.

I remember one interview I gave had strong social thoughts from a book I just read. The writer misunderstood me and wrote something that I didn’t say. I felt judged by those reading it. Out came the shell again and me under it. Hiding, piece by piece. Little by little. More and more.

I became comfortable hiding, my intelligence, my physical appearance, my truths, my thoughts, myself.

To this day, every time I get out of the shower to get dressed, I swear the first thought that comes into my head is, what can I wear that won’t cause too much attention when I go pick up Egy, or head to the store, or go shopping, or visit a friend etc.

And just the other day it hit me! OMG! Alicia!!! Why are you choosing to be that person?? That is so old and outdated!! STOP!!

You are allowed to be smart
You are allowed to be beautiful
You are allowed to be radical and have strong thoughts that others might not agree with
You are allowed to be tough
You are allowed to be sexy
You are allowed to be bold
You are allowed to be shapely
You are allowed to be kind
You are allowed to be yourself!!

And guess what!?? I can be all these things all at the same time. I don’t have to give up one to be the other. I don’t have to hide anymore, I don’t have to pretend and hold back, I don’t have to think that my intelligence, beauty and sensuality are intimidating to others. Who cares??!!! I don’t have to think my silliness, clumsiness, or hallmark card optimism, is something I can’t be proud of! Who cares????!!!!

I don’t have to try to go unnoticed
I don’t have to fit in
I don’t have to close up my thoughts and only speak my truth through songs!

I can speak it everyday
Live it everyday
Be it everyday
Dress it everyday
Show it everyday
Grow it everyday!!!

I only got 28,000 of those days. So what the FUCK am I waiting for??
And dammit that’s what I’m doing!!!!

-AK

Share your unique truth in the comment section below. Sound it out!

I LOVE THIS SONG!

-Renée Nicole Gibson Twitter: disclosednative IG: ms_disclosednative

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2 thoughts on “Alicia Keys ‘A Revelation’

  1. Sonia says:

    OMG!!! As I read this, I realize that everything you and Alicia Keys spoke on had me thinking and feeling that way too. I never really knew why I hid myself or why I would dumb down the way I thought or why I would dress down to keep myself from being notice or put on the spot. But after reading and listening to her song. Now I know exactly what and why I would hide myself from the world and it was my insecurities and it was how I would let others dictate my life on what I should like or what I shouldn’t like. What I should do or what I shouldn’t do just because my thoughts didn’t fit in with what they thought I should or should do or try. Plus! I didn’t want to get rejected. I remember how I always wanted to fit in with others. And even to this day I would have those thoughts of why I can’t fit in or why am I difference. And I realize that even my Spiritual Father and Mother would always say. (Paraphrases) God did not put me here to fit and it’s okay that I don’t. I’m on an assignment and if others don’t understand the assignment then it’s okay, because it’s not about them or me.. One of his messages was ” you don’t have to believe in my dreams.” Thanks Renee for posting this and thanks Alicia for helping me to finally understand why I was hiding me and why I don’t fit in.. I guess that’s why I like that song by TwoChains, “I’m Difference ” God bless… Amazing Topic…

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