My Letter To Mo’Nique

Black woman, they don’t understand us. They want what we have to offer and then say that we don’t measure up; that none of us are talented enough to compare. They take our no-nonsense demeanor as being difficult. Even our men don’t get us. Say we have bad attitudes and in the words of Kanye, go and get them a white girl. Go figure.

When we grow the balls to speak up, they laugh at us. Make us out to look like fools. Call us hard to work with, disrespectful, disruptive because we’ve had enough. Because we won’t just suck it up and go with the flow.

My generation gets off on making a mockery of others. It took minutes following the NBA All Star Game star spangled banner for Fergie’s face to be attached to memes and reenactments that included Cardi B dancing in triple time (I’m not saying it wasn’t funny, I’m just saying this is the quick bashing nature of current day society). We just want to have fun. We don’t want to face the hard yet very real facts.

I, for one have encountered your genuine nature. I witnessed you and your “difficultness” after a long day of shooting your late night talk show (a show that I and my peers watched religiously), walk across a studio stage to come speak to me, a person you didn’t even know. When I told you about the plans I was contemplating, you gave me the advice, “just fucking do it” and lovingly shared your story. You were sincere. You were real. You changed the trajectory of my life with a 5-minute conversation.

I won’t censor you. I stand by you and your decision to speak your truth and to ask those of us impacted by your gift to stand with you.

Black women in the comedy industry are not given the platform to bring in the numbers of their male or white counterparts. No matter how many tears of laughter we cried during LaWanda Page’s “watch it sucka” routine or Jenifer Lewis’ “you are on my list” monologue or the hilarity of Marla Gibbs as Florence Johnson, we still have yet to gain respect as businesswomen, as creatives, and as leaders in a male-dominated industry.

What I appreciate from a comedian is an effortless ability to make me laugh. It sounds so simple but it’s rare to find. You are one of the few entertainers who can make me laugh with a genuine quality–male, female, black, white, Hispanic, Asian– you are one of the few.

In the midst of backlash, you continue to make me laugh. You continue to be a staple in an arena that does not always accurately depict people of my gender or ethnicity. You continue to be Mo’Nique, a creator of hilarious content.

I hope that your stance encourages our community to create their own; to work 10x harder, as we are accustomed to do, and generate our own revenue so that the babies after us don’t have to face the same battles. Thank you for setting the bar high and teaching us that we do not have to settle; a lesson Black women must apply to all aspects of life.

Peace and love.


Shameless Audacity: You Can Have Whatever You’d Like


I tell you, even though he will not get up and give you the bread because of friendship, yet because of your shameless audacity he will surely get up and give you as much as you need. –Luke 11:8

Have you ever really wanted something but didn’t feel comfortable asking God? This week I discuss a revelation God gave me from Luke 11 in that you can ask whatever you’d like. As you align with Him, so do your desires. Therefore, He wants you to have what it is you are hoping for.

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I Will Not Be Shaken


I keep my eyes always on the Lord.
With him at my right hand, I will not be shaken. Psalm 16:8

Everyone starts the year with new goals. January 1st is the ultimate reset. We claim the new year as “our year,” the moment we are going to overcome all of the obstacles that deterred us in the years prior. But guess what? A new year just means new hurdles. We were never promised a trial-free life. Our responsibility is to take what we learn from our former hardships and defeat new giants with more ease, more class, and a stable mind. You have to declare that no matter what comes, I will not be shaken!

When a year ends and one or two or fifty significant difficult circumstances occurred in the course of that year, we often say for example, “I’m over 2017, come on 2018!” We associate the entire year with whatever difficulty we faced. Why not change our thinking? Why not say, “Last year I endured some hard times, but I endured.” We cannot discredit the victory of making it through and learning from whatever we faced. We now know that when trouble arises in the new year and please believe, it will, we can keep a level head and say, “I overcame before and I will overcome again. God is not new to this, He’s true to this! If He brought me through before, He will bring me out a thousand times and because I have learned to respond as a victor and not a loser, I will win!

We have to go into each day with the mentality of winning. I cannot be easily distracted by attacks. Sickness? I have authority over you today. I am healthy. I am strong. Heartbreak? I take control over my emotions today. God loves me better than any person on earth ever could and He is the commander-in-chief over my heart. Dead end job? God has given me skills that will impact the world. My gifts will create wealth for me.

We can conquer whatever obstacle comes our way with the proper thinking. Set goals and be specific. I am going to be doing a video soon about shameless audacity as I am learning the importance of asking for the desires God has placed in me. I have stuff inside of me that God put there. I can’t afford to keep it bound due to fear, insecurity, timidity, or lack of resources. If HE put it there then He has already provided the tools needed to win.

Yes, it’s a new year. Plan, write things down, create a vision board but while cutting words out of magazines be sure to include overcomer, conquerervictor. Rough patches spot even the most beautiful of valleys, but if you look from a wide view, you will only see the splendor before you. Look at your year from the same perspective. Yes there are blemishes, but there is even more beauty to embrace.

Regardless of what mountains we must climb, we will not be shaken! I declare that this is not just your winning season, but your winning eternity. The blessings will not stop with 2018 but will overflow for the entirety of your children’s children’s children’s children’s lives. You will leave legacy. Everything attached to you WINS!!!!!!